[locked from Lockon just to be safe]

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

This seems to be the place where everyone wants to ask their big questions, so here's mine and I'm expecting you to listen.

If someone you liked a lot was a total jerk and went and betrayed your trust and what they promised you, but then they came back and tried to say they were sorry.

Should you forgive someone who does such dumb things?

Comments

[breakhisknees.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you do.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Oh, it's you.

Why then? Make your case.

[breakhisknees.livejournal.com]

I'm happy to see you too, kid.

Why not? The guy obviously is sorry what he did.

[mybffharo.livejournal.com]

Haruhi....

Don't families forgive each other?

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

It depends.

[oceanicbutterfly]

Someone who's clearly just going to betray you again doesn't need to be forgiven, but someone who's truly sorry...

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

But how do you know if they're really sorry? Sorry is just a word.

[Anon]

[ridethetiger]

Depends on what they did. They may try to claim they meant no harm... but if it still betrays your trust...


I guess... it comes down to whether or not you want to forgive them. If you like them enough to give them another chance, even if you just end up getting hurt again.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

...I want to, but I don't want to be betrayed again.

[ihave-control.livejournal.com]

... It depends, I think.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Allelujah Haptism.

What does it depend on?

[drifterforhire.livejournal.com]

Depends on what they did and if they truly are sorry. And it depends on how close they were to you to begin with.

I know I've got someone that I don't think I could ever forgive.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

...Very close to me, I guess.

Why not?

[h4ck3r-61rl.livejournal.com]

No.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Why not?

[goddamn-ironman.livejournal.com]

... Well, is it just the once? Or does she or he do this all the time?

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Ah, it's you.

...Just once as far as I know.

[jagan-glare.livejournal.com]

Maybe there was a reason behind it; they didn't want to do it, but it had to be done.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

I thought we always had a choice.

[thelastsolidor.livejournal.com]

I fear that I do not know the answer to that question.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Neither did most people, I guess it's too much for the comm.

[doomedyouth00.livejournal.com]

Forgiveness can be a hard thing to give. No one else can make that decision for you.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

Hard is an understatement.

[Anon]

[shunraiken.livejournal.com]

Such things are usually the start of a pattern.

[godisagirl.livejournal.com]

...Always?