5th Wish // Voice // Canon Move part 2! // Locked from Timmy and Crocker

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Well, I've seen some people go to this place for answers so. It can't hurt to try it out.

My uhm...well someone I know just found out that parent's tell little white lies. He's taking it pretty hard. I know lying is wrong but sometimes hiding the truth is necessary.

So, does anyone know how to handle telling a ten year old that his parents lie to him to keep him safe? None of my other kids ever figured the whole lying thing out until they were teenagers.

[Hence the invention of Rock'n'Roll.]

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[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

...It's a hard thing to do. We don't want to teach them to lie too.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

It really is.

I try to make sure he knows lying is bad. Maybe this will help a little. Somehow.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

Is he your son?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

God son actually.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

What did they lie about?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Oh the usual.

"If you don't finish dinner we'll have to give to other kids. Which means we'll vanish to parts unknown. Forever."

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

I think they were wrong in telling that lie. A kid shouldn't have to worry about leaving his parents.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

It was a little white one and it ended up...well not for the best but some good came of it.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

Do you really think it's something a child should worry about?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Usually they don't find out until they're teenagers so it's not that much of a problem then.

They just rebel for a few years and get over it.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

A kid shouldn't be told he'll be taken away. How are they suppose to feel safe if they don't feel safe in their own home?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

[That's why Cosmo and Wanda were assigned to him.]

A lot of parents tend to use it. It's not right or fair but it seems to work at some level. For a little while.

I wish there was an easier way to deal with this; besides just wishing for his parents to tell the truth.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

I think THEY need to talk with him. It's kind that you're trying to help but how can he trust them if they're not the ones handling it?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

[Because she's as much Timmy's mom as Mrs. Turner is but...she can't tell Roze that.]

Mostly it's because he asked us why. And I can't tell his parents to fix it either.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

You're his godmother, aren't you? They must trust you very much.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

It...doesn't really work that way here? I mean I wasn't picked by his parents.

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

Then how did you become his godparents?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Would you believe me if I said it was a contest?

[makewayforroze.livejournal.com]

[The worlds are strange enough that she may have, if she wasn't asked .]

But it isn't the truth.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

It's not, really. But I can't tell you how it all happened.

[ihatepsychology.livejournal.com]

Last year around Christmas time, I was informed that is acceptable to lie to children around Christmas time in order to preserve their sense of "childlike wonder" at the world because it's healthy and children understand that even if they're being lied to, it's for good reason.

There's a lot of psychology involved in it, so I don't completely understand the details, but I think it makes sense at that time of year. Regarding anything beyond that time of year, I would never lie to a child so I don't see why it would be necessary for his parents to. His parents should apologize, explain that they were wrong and why, and be honest with him from that point onward.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

[That's a nice twist?]

Around...oh! You mean because of Santa Claus? Well, since he is real in our world, that's technically not a lie.

[Small pause as she thinks it over.]

I like that train of thought, ma'm, even if it might be hard sometimes. If only because the kid might not understand the truth. At the moment...well, they can't really lie to him so that might solve a few things.

[ihatepsychology.livejournal.com]

In my world, he's a fictional character based on myths that are actually very violent and threatening but the vast majority of people aren't aware of the origins of Santa Claus, so they have no problems teaching their children falsified information.

Children will never learn to understand things if you simply attempt to hide it from them all the time. I think that's a very good solution, though I'm not sure why they wouldn't be capable of lying.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

The only violence at Christmas now a days are the sales.

Well mostly they were little white lies. Like where do babies come from and why you need to eat your spinach.

Uhm...they made a bet.

[Yeah, she can still lie. It's just the Turners that can't!]

And lost.

[number1112.livejournal.com]

Even though parents think it's protecting their child it still hurts when you eventually find out the truth.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Boy does it ever. Ti-I mean the someone I know isn't taking it very well.

[number1112.livejournal.com]

I didn't take it well either. My parents - or my father, at least - lied to me my entire life.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, well how old are you sweetie?

[maybe it's better he learns it now?]

[number1112.livejournal.com]

I'm twenty.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

[Aww not so little hmm...]

Maybe it is better that he found out this young. It means he's only be lied to for ten years....instead of twenty.

[Now you get concerned Wanda.]

I'm sorry your folks had to lie to you, kiddo but sometimes it's for the best. Not often but you might get lucky sometimes.

[number1112.livejournal.com]

My mother finally told me the truth.

... The biggest lie was that I existed. That anything I knew existed.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

[She's a little confused. How can existing be a lie.]

Uhm that sounds a little philosophical honey. What do you mean you existing was a lie?

[number1112.livejournal.com]

I was only a dream. My mother made some kind of dream world with me along with it.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

So you live in your mother's dream?

[That...is a little creepy but it has some sweetness to it.]

[number1112.livejournal.com]

Yes. Or I did. There was an entire Village of people but I think I was the only one who didn't actually exist in her real world.

[glass-secret.livejournal.com]

Oh boy. That's a tricky one.

What was the secret?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Well the one that started this whole thing was really the lie that made his life miserable.

[Of course without that lie Timmy would have never gotten God Parents but besides the point.]

His parents said they'd gone off to parts unknown forever because he hadn't eaten his dinner.

[glass-secret.livejournal.com]

Ah, one of those lies.

And telling him that some lies are good and others bad isn't working?

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Yeap!

It's sort of hard to explain it when he feels so bad about being lied to in the first place.

Parents are supposed to lie about some stuff, but...well I'm still trying to figure out just how to explain that.

[glass-secret.livejournal.com]

It is pretty hard to explain. Have you given him examples of little white lies and the bad lies? Maybe if he hears how different they are, he would understand.

[wishingpink.livejournal.com]

Hmm, that might be something to do once we get home from school. I'm sure there's plenty of other examples from his early childhood to use.