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[godofabs]

Mortals- humans- age so quickly, marriage and their time to make children seems to be a race against time before the opportune moment to bear child is past. Long ago, my mother used to tell me that she would hear women and their laments about marriage and childbirth, as if they were too concerned that their time had past.

I wonder what is the appropriate amount of time to court someone before marriage is even considered. Or perhaps marriage is something that not to bind families together, but for the sake of creating children?

[of all the questions to ask...]

Comments

[piercethecharts]

Thor, that is enough thinking about my childbearing potential, thank you very much!

[godofabs]

Is it because you do not consider K.A.M.I.N.A a worthy parent?

[piercethecharts]

It's because I'm nineteen, for starters!

[godofabs]

... I thought you were much older.

[piercethecharts]

Everyone does! It's as if they're trying to judge my age by my chest!

[makewayforroze]

Marriage isn't something you do to have children. It's something very special between two people.

[godofabs]

Then I do not know why these two people have not yet married.

[makewayforroze]

Wouldn't it be best to ask them instead of us?

[godofabs]

I only wished to ask of the usual customs of mortals. [since he is one now.]

[makewayforroze]

Oh?

I believe you should marry that person only when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

[grimdarkseer]

In this day and age?
People don't need to be married to create children.
Even those from worlds where ectobiology isn't involved.

[godofabs]

Then I do not understand why Sheryl and K.A.M.I.N.A do not have children.

[grimdarkseer]

Perhaps because they don't feel they are ready or able to bring up a child.
Perhaps because they feel they will never wish to have children.
Perhaps they would like children but are prevented from doing so because one or both has fertility problems.
Without knowing the couple in question I wouldn't be able to tell you the specific reason but I'm sure they would if you asked them nicely.

[godofabs]

Hmm, it seems I have a lot to think about.

[grimdarkseer]

As a race I think you'll find we're rather more complex than you're giving us credit for.

[swordplay]

Marriage is just a pointless title used for bragging rights in front of other people.

[godofabs]

This seems to be an answer unlike the others. Why?

[archicheck]

I think the reason for a marriage depends on the couple, honestly.

[godofabs]

Why, why does it differ?

[archicheck]

Some people marry just because they love each other. Others, because they want to start a family. There are some who might marry just for security, whether financial or emotional. People want and need different things out of relationships. The same goes for marriage.

[godofabs]

I see.

[archicheck]

Why are you worried about it?

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[elloran]

In general I would agree with your sentiment. But those who do not age should not bear children; it is too painful to watch those children who are not gods age and die before you.

We Inquestors do not age, nor do we bear children or marry. The later could have something to do with our childlessness, but it might simply be because love does not last over centuries.

[godofabs]

Aesirs, that is to say Asgardians, do not feel this way. My mother and father have been married since -- since he took the throne as King of Asgard and loved each other till death. This idea that love does not last through centuries does not sit well with me.

[elloran]

Perhaps it is not true of Asgaridians, but humans grow and change. It seems naive to believe that love will last even after a thousand years of new experiences.

Though I would prefer to be wrong, I think. Its such a pretty ideal, love is. Unfortunate that the reality seems to be different.

[likethetragedy]

It depends on the couple. Some marry for children, others for convenience, and every once in a while for love.

[godofabs]

... they seem to be in love, I do not comprehend why they do not insist on marrying.

[likethetragedy]

They're not ready. Marriage is a big step. You can't go into it with someone unless you're absolutely sure.

[godofabs]

Your lives dwindle quickly, why would you wait?

[likethetragedy]

They seem longer to the people who aren't immortal.

[tenminutes]

Like I told Tidus the other day-- Marriage is when you love someone, you want to spend the rest of your life with them, and you want to make sure you get half of their stuff if they leave you.

It's not for everyone and it has nothing to do with kids.

[godofabs]

I am only left to wonder, then.

[notjustathief]

Depends where you and them live, your respective cultures, religions, etcetera. I'd usually vote for waiting at least three years, but I got married while drunk and am probably not the best expert.

Marriage isn't just for making kids, though. People who say that are usually trying to push an agenda.

[godofabs]

I hear this too often, is it really true?

[notjustathief]

Which part, the one where it depends on circumstances, or that it's not just for kids?

[aburningspirit]

THOR