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[energybends]

What's a good way to make friends with someone who really really doesn't want to be friends with you?

Comments

[yacantdoitkid]

Fuck them, they ain't worth your time.

[energybends]

That's not true.

[yacantdoitkid]

Well which is it? Make up yer fuckin' mind.

[embersandashes]

Accept that they aren't interested and leave them alone, Avatar.

[energybends]

It's not like I bother them. I respect space...

[embersandashes]

Making posts like this could count as bothering. If someone isn't interested in friendship you should respect that.

And I know you're talking about me, by the way.

[grimdarkseer]

You can't force someone to be your friend. If you've made your intentions known, you leave it for them to decide whether or not they're interested in reciprocating.

[energybends]

I'm not trying to force them. I want to get along. I just don't see why we can't be friends.

[grimdarkseer]

Getting along and being friends are two separate matters. The former merely requires a lack of any significant levels of animosity; the latter requires investment from both parties.

[croibhristeoir]

I think you should just try to be kind and civil to them. I doubt such a thing can be forced, personally.

[energybends]

I don't want to force it but I really want to be friends.

[croibhristeoir]

I think I might know how you feel, to a point.

[What is living with someone that doesn't trust you.]

But if they will have none of it, persisting may only make things worse. I would advise patience and say that you should simply treat them kindly. With any luck, they could eventually change their mind.

[madeitsquare]

You stop bothering them.

[energybends]

I'm not bothering them. I haven't even talked to them in a while.

[madeitsquare]

That's a start.

[keyboardist]

You can only do so much. If they don't want anything to do with you, then that's it.

[energybends]

That's it? That can't just be it.

[Holograph/Video]

[hart_on_sleeve]

"This is a question I ask myself constantly. Twenty-first century-ians are so rude!"

[ video ]

[energybends]

I'm not sure I'm in that century...

[ video ]

[hart_on_sleeve]

"No? Well good! What century are you from then? I'm from the 51st, the best one of all if I do say so myself."

[heavenlyhome]

I takes time, but I would say, speak to them politely and find ways to be in their company. One grows used to those who are often around.

[energybends]

Be in their company? I should go hang out with her!

[callmeoniisan]

Just give them time, probably?

[energybends]

Another for patience.

[deadlydoctor]

None. Why waste you time?