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There's a person you like - are attracted to, at least, is probably more accurate - but you're going to just be friends with them for a while.

How do you quiet all of your signals and not flirt with them, at all?

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Exercise self-control, anonymous.

I don't even know what signals I'm sending off that I should be controlling.

Edited 2012-02-22 18:42 (UTC)

Ah, that is a problem.

Try practising in front of a mirror, if you must.

Practice having a completely platonic conversation? I suppose.

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Did they ask you not to flirt, or is this your own decision?
You can be friends and still flirt, you know, there is that option.

It's my own decision. I thought that things would be simpler if I didn't flirt.

You did say "for a while", though.
Inadvertent flirting, to me, implies that it's nothing particularly shocking, or potentially offensive.
Therefore, it's a pretty safe bet that it's only going to help you get closer to the end of the while.

"For a while" means at least I'm not doing anything yet. It could be forever, but it definitely will be at least for a while.

And I hope I'm not being offensive... I'm pretty sure I'm not.

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Whoever you are, I'm somewhat worried you and I may have a similar problem.

Could you explain a little more?

Well...I feel as if I might care for a close friend somewhat more than I should. But I worry that if I let on, it will surely only lead to utter disaster.

So if you find an answer, I'd quite like to hear it.

I'll be sure to tell you. After all, I do want to avert potential disaster, even if they're other people's.

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Why would you want to repress something like that?

It might make things worse to act on it.

Might...but you don't know for certain though, do you?

I have a good guess.

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Oh, don't I know about that.

It's really difficult.

It is, that happened to me with my actual boyfriend. You can't do nothing but control yourself, I'm sorry.

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Don't bother, just roll with it and be honest! That's how friendship works, too, ain't it? Honestly?

I'm not lying, just curbing the potential for awkwardness. He knows how I feel.

Did he ask you to cut back?

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Perhaps you cut off contact with them until you can better control yourself. Except that might hurt them more than unwanted flirting.

... Is it? Unwanted?

Awkward, more than unwanted. It would be simpler not to.

I see. But, it's not something you should feel guilty about. Emotions are funny things. They can't just be turned off, as you no doubt understand quite well.

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