[anonymous]

[archicheck]

Since this community is used to dealing with...odd relationship questions I thought I would ask one.

We all know that the community has a habit of cutting people off after a while. Sometimes they return with their memories and other times they return with a completely different set of memories. Sometimes they don't return at all.

My question is, if you were cut off from a person you really, truly cared about how can you find the strength to move on? Or should you even move on at all? Should you keep hoping that maybe someday they'll come back and you can just pick up where you left off?

Isn't thinking like that unrealistic? I'd like to believe it could happen, but I don't know if I can.

[ooc: please assume all tags are anon!]

Comments

[anon + text forever!]

[likethetragedy]

You just do. I'd say let them go. Help from afar if they reappear without their memories. See if you can pick things back up again if they do remember.

[archicheck]

Have you had to do that?

[likethetragedy]

Which one?

[archicheck]

Any of them.

[likethetragedy]

They came back without their memories.

[archicheck]

How hard is it? [because it must be difficult.]

[likethetragedy]

It's worse than losing them. It makes everything you did with them feel absolutely pointless.

[archicheck]

How do you even cope with something like that?

[likethetragedy]

Practice. If you don't have any let me suggest getting a lot of distractions.

[archicheck]

Does it ever get better?

[likethetragedy]

Yes.

[archicheck]

How?

[likethetragedy]

The standard reason: it hurts less with time. If you distract yourself with people they can make it easier too.

[archicheck]

Hm.

I know this is pretty personal, so feel free not to answer, but...have you found someone else?

[likethetragedy]

No.

[archicheck]

Because you can't or because you haven't found someone?

Again, you don't have to answer if you don't want to.

[likethetragedy]

Both.

[Anon]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

I'd like to think it isn't unrealistic, but I can't really answer. I know I sucked at comforting a friend of mine when it happened to them.

[archicheck]

For what it's worth...I'm sorry you're going through this.

[archicheck]

What did you do to comfort them?

[anon]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

... Not much. And that ended in an argument. One of these days I'll learn to leave philosophy to people who are actually good at it.

[archicheck]

I'm sure you meant well. It's hard sometimes when you don't know what the other person is going through.

[likethetragedy]

Same to you. No one should lose the people they care about like this.

[archicheck]

I guess that's just the kind of risk you have to take in a place like this.

I certainly don't regret being with him when he was here.

[Anon]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

Tell me about it. We patched things up at least, I think. Or got over it, or something. Haven't really dared to ask them about it yet, honestly.