[anonymous]

[archicheck]

Since this community is used to dealing with...odd relationship questions I thought I would ask one.

We all know that the community has a habit of cutting people off after a while. Sometimes they return with their memories and other times they return with a completely different set of memories. Sometimes they don't return at all.

My question is, if you were cut off from a person you really, truly cared about how can you find the strength to move on? Or should you even move on at all? Should you keep hoping that maybe someday they'll come back and you can just pick up where you left off?

Isn't thinking like that unrealistic? I'd like to believe it could happen, but I don't know if I can.

[ooc: please assume all tags are anon!]

Comments

[archicheck]

How do you even cope with something like that?

[likethetragedy]

Practice. If you don't have any let me suggest getting a lot of distractions.

[archicheck]

Does it ever get better?

[likethetragedy]

Yes.

[archicheck]

How?

[likethetragedy]

The standard reason: it hurts less with time. If you distract yourself with people they can make it easier too.

[archicheck]

Hm.

I know this is pretty personal, so feel free not to answer, but...have you found someone else?

[likethetragedy]

No.

[archicheck]

Because you can't or because you haven't found someone?

Again, you don't have to answer if you don't want to.

[likethetragedy]

Both.

[archicheck]

For what it's worth...I'm sorry you're going through this.

[likethetragedy]

Same to you. No one should lose the people they care about like this.

[archicheck]

I guess that's just the kind of risk you have to take in a place like this.

I certainly don't regret being with him when he was here.

[likethetragedy]

I don't have any regrets either. It seems pointless to when it comes to this.

[archicheck]

If I just thought about possible regrets I doubt I'd be doing much of anything.

[likethetragedy]

Exactly. It's not like the community would let us do nothing anyways.

[archicheck]

If we don't make a choice it does tend to make one for us.

[likethetragedy]

So we should forge our own paths even if they're painful. At least that's what I think.

[archicheck]

I agree. It's just about finding the strength to do it.

[likethetragedy]

Do you have friends? They're more helpful than people give them credit for.

[archicheck]

Yeah. I'd probably be a lot worse off if I didn't have them around.

[likethetragedy]

That's a point in your favor.

[archicheck]

What about you? Do you have someone?

[likethetragedy]

A few someone's actually. I moved in with a couple of them.

[archicheck]

I'm glad to hear it. It really helped me, so I hope it helps you too.