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[fearleads]

Can I get some advice from the community? How many of you have had love problems? How did you get through them?

What do you do when you like two people at once?

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[lightning_strike]

Like two people at once? Well...

... hard to say really. I've never been... able to express my affection openly yet.

[fearleads]

What, at all? Why not? That's torture!

[lightning_strike]

Its, well, its a professional thing. I cannot seek a relationship with my commanding officer. No matter what I want.

[fearleads]

So you're dead in the water because you're a soldier?

[lightning_strike]

Sadly, yes. Although I'm not entirely certain if I could muster the courage to ask her out even if we weren't commanding officer and enlisted.

[fearleads]

Everyone has love problems lately.

[lightning_strike]

It really feels like it. Although I can be thankful that I have other things than love occupying my time.

[fearleads]

Like work?

[lightning_strike]

That's right. I'm usually occupied with training and various other major things like that.

[fearleads]

That war's gone on a long time.

[lightning_strike]

It's been raging for three years now. It hasn't stopped yet.

[fearleads]

That's horrible. Have you gotten anywhere?

[lightning_strike]

We've halted their advance, and had some victories in Egypt. However breaking through the Gallia-Karsland Line has been difficult.

[fearleads]

Don't worry. We have faith in you, of corpse.

[lightning_strike]

Thank you. That's appreciated.

[Anon, probably hackable]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

I guess I don't really know. I asked that once a while back - the two people at once thing. Didn't get a lot of agreement out of the community.

One of them mostly turned out to just be a crush. So I guess I could say you'll eventually figure out one way or the other, but I don't think it's always that clear.

[The anon is entirely because he's still a little embarrassed about the whole thing.]

[fearleads]

Maybe. No body else can help -- they all have their own problems. Draculaura's dating Clawdeen's brother and Clawdeen wants to break them up, Lagoona's depressed because Gil's parents found out about them and transferred him out, and Cleo's afraid that Deuce is going to leave her for another girl, even though she's been paranoid about that at least three times before now.

[Anon, probably hackable]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

Um... wow. I don't know. Give it time, I guess. Try to avoid scheduling dates with both of them at the same time?

[Jak is not actually any good with romantic drama. He grew up in a village with all of one girl and one other guy his age.]

It'll probably sort itself out over time. Either you'll settle on one of them or you'll get to a point where you can talk about it with both of them and try and figure out what's up. Until then, the community's as good a place to work things out as any, I guess. Though maybe not if you want to keep it private.

[fearleads]

One of them always seems to flake out and not have any reason, and the other just does what he wants when he wants, but they're both really nice to me and fun to be around in different ways... I don't get it.

[Anon, probably hackable]

[precursorstone_gun_nest]

Sounds to me like they've both got some issues...

[fearleads]

Is there anything I should do?

[mightletyouknowme]

Pick the best one.

[fearleads]

How do you decide that?

[mightletyouknowme]

I'll help. I've seen a lot of couples. [Virtual.] So just tell me about them.

[fearleads]

Well, uh, Jackson is a normie guy -- the only human in the monster school. He's kind of shy and awkward, but he's fun to be around... except he always seems to disappear and even he doesn't know why, or at least that's what he says. Draculaura and he kind of had a thing for a month or so and then she dumped him because he was unreliable, and she says humans are usually like that, but I know you guys, and you're not all that bad. I don't think that's all there is to it.

Holt is a monster who always appears when I'm waiting for someone else. He's loud, in-your-face, and I thought he was kind of obnoxious, but he seems to be reliable and I like talking with him too. He's a DJ who shows up with music even if he wasn't invited, and he's a really lively guy! Though he goes at his own pace.

I know this is a clawful decision, but I'm dead if I do and dead if I don't, right?

[mightletyouknowme]

Huh? Those are the two guys you have to chose from? You can do way better than them!

There's no way you should be with somebody who would just disappear on you and lie about it but why would you be with somebody annoying? We can find a better guy.

[fearleads]

Wait, what?

[mightletyouknowme]

You just need to meet better men.

[fearleads]

It's not that bad, is it?

[mightletyouknowme]

It's horrible. They're both bad choices.

[fearleads]

I don't think they're all that horrorble.

[mightletyouknowme]

They sound bad. There has to be somebody better.

[fearleads]

What kind of manster do you like?

[mightletyouknowme]

Somebody brave but not stupid. [Link.] He's cute and fun. There's no way he'd ever be annoying.

[masked_god]

The logical response would be to find time for both. There is no need to limit yourself to one or two friends, why limit yourself in lovers?

[fearleads]

That's a thing you can do?

[masked_god]

Of course! Generally different lovers fill different needs, after all. A need for understanding compared to a need for thoughtless kindness, for example. Or having a male and a female lover. There are many reasons.

Assuming ones partners are not greedy, it generally works out well too.

[fearleads]

I didn't think that was, uh... I guess thinking about what's normal is kind of missing the point, huh?

[masked_god]

Mmm, yes. But there is nothing wrong with wishing to conform to your worlds relationship standards either.

[fearleads]

I just don't know what to do. My friends all have enough trouble with one person.

[masked_god]

Your friends are not you. What difficulties they face do not reflect upon your struggles.

[brokethecamera]

...That's a tough one. I don't think there's really a straight answer.

[fearleads]

Has it ever happened to you?

[brokethecamera]

Yeah. It sort of resolved itself in the end. Well, no. I guess I did that. With a lot of thinking. Maybe.