[anon, text]

[archerartemis]

So if something happens to you, but you don't remember it, can it be considered a traumatic experience?

Like, say you were working on something with your friends. It was stressful, but everything was mostly under control. Then all of a sudden you got hurt, and your friends just freaked out from it and everything fell apart? But you were out cold during all of it?

Or is it just stupid to be upset about this?

Comments

[yes_im_kawaii]

I don't remember a lot of stuff and I'm mad about that.

[forever anon]

[archerartemis]

I don't think it's the same thing. I'm not upset about not remembering. I'm upset about what happened, even though I wasn't all there for it.

[yes_im_kawaii]

But that's normal too. I'd get mad if my friends got all upset and their stuff got ruined.

[archerartemis]

Maybe. But I feel like it was my fault, even though I know there's nothing I could do about getting hurt.

[yes_im_kawaii]

You should blame the person who hurt you instead.

[archerartemis]

Fat chance. It was one of my friends, and it was an accident.

[yes_im_kawaii]

Were they aiming at somebody else? Blame that guy, then.

[archerartemis]

It's kind of a messy situation all around. It was supposed to be practice.

[yes_im_kawaii]

Auu. That just sucks. There's probably something else to help fix it, though.

[archerartemis]

We've pretty much cleaned it up. It's just a matter of getting us to figure out what went wrong and cope with it.

[yes_im_kawaii]

Don't get hurt again or anything.

[archerartemis]

Gonna try.

[yes_im_kawaii]

Auu... Okay.

[notmynature]

I'd be pretty pissed if something that big happened to me and I didn't remember it.

[forever anon]

[archerartemis]

Yeah, but why do I feel bad about what happened when I didn't really go through all of it?

[notmynature]

But you did. It's like saying everything that happened when you were a kid never happened just 'cause you don't remember it all.

[archerartemis]

I guess.

[notmynature]

Why's it something you have to keep secret?

[archerartemis]

More like it's hard to explain. It was a training exercise, and even me getting hurt wasn't supposed to be so bad. It just made everyone freak out and go ballistic, making everything--including my condition--worse.

[notmynature]

I don't get why you're asking if it's okay to be upset. I mean, you are, right? So what if somebody says it is? You gonna be okay, then?

[archerartemis]

I don't know. Everyone keeps saying that I must be feeling upset about it, and I do, but...I kind of just want them to leave it alone. It's like they're picking me apart with worry.

[notmynature]

They probably mean well but they... don't understand? Just talk to 'em, let them know to back off.

[archerartemis]

One's the team therapist. I say anything like that, I'm "repressing."

[notmynature]

You're doin' what you gotta do. If it bothers you, you'd talk about it, right?

[archerartemis]

Pretty much, yeah.

[notmynature]

Good. That's what matters.