[anonymous]

[archicheck]

Since this community is used to dealing with...odd relationship questions I thought I would ask one.

We all know that the community has a habit of cutting people off after a while. Sometimes they return with their memories and other times they return with a completely different set of memories. Sometimes they don't return at all.

My question is, if you were cut off from a person you really, truly cared about how can you find the strength to move on? Or should you even move on at all? Should you keep hoping that maybe someday they'll come back and you can just pick up where you left off?

Isn't thinking like that unrealistic? I'd like to believe it could happen, but I don't know if I can.

[ooc: please assume all tags are anon!]

Comments

[archicheck]

I know.

I know that's what I should do, but it's so much easier to say than to actually do.

[timey_wimey]

I know it is. And I'm not saying you should do it straight away or all at once, asking that would just be cruel. But slowly, over time, you have to let yourself heal. A lot of the time when people say "move on" what they really mean is that you shouldn't focus so much on holding on that you fight against things getting easier to deal with without even realising it.

[archicheck]

"Moving on" does seem a strange thing to call it. It's really impossible to move on completely.

But I see what you're saying. Shutting down completely wouldn't do me any good.