Advice?

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

How do you get somebody to notice you?

I mean really head-over-heels-falling-in-love notice you.

Comments

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

What sort of idol are you?

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

A rock star, or as of late I'm an ex-rock star. I wanted to pour all of my efforts into my career as a lawyer so I had to give it up.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

You do look very handsome...

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

Dankeschön, but I should warn you too much flattery is dangerous. I have a very healthy ego.

Which is why we should bring the topic back around to you, ja?

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I guess so... So you're now a lawyer? I'm a detective.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

A noble profession, I happen to have a close, working relationship with a detective.

Am I to understand that this person you're interested in is a detective too?

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Yeah... But he has eyes for someone else. He always has eyes for everyone else but me.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

Ah, unrequited love...that is a problem...and usually the harder you try the more they push you away, ja?

I don't think there's an easy answer, romantic love isn't usually a conscious decision. Are you...needy...by any chance?

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Literally.

Needy? I have needs but I don't think I'm needy, as such.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I had to ask. As I understand it unrequited love is difficult when you're needy...not that it probably isn't when you're not. Neediness is a turn off, but needy people are also moody and it's also difficult to see that there might be other things or even other people that make you happy if you're so attached and zeroed in on one person. That's why, nothing personal.

There are other things you could do like distancing yourself, or think about the positive side of the single life, I think the most difficult option is unconditional love.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

I'm a generally happy person though!

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

Generally, but not always, right? I guess nobody can be happy all the time though, that would just be ludicrous...

...but this is a social dilemma, you not being able to have this person is making you unhappy. You can't make someone love you in return...relationships are so complex.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

But I just need a starting point. Then I can work from there.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

I've discovered that throwing them down and having my way with them works, though the men and women I have sex with are interested if not a little shy...so I guess that's no help. It could be in your methods...I guess you can make a list of the old routines and things you've tried and then another list of things you haven't tried.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Well, I have tried to kiss him before and that's when I get shoved away.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

So he's not even physically attracted to you...that is depressing.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Maybe he is but he just won't admit it!

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

Could be...

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

What do you with people who say no to you?

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

When people say no? Well when I'm pressing for intimacy it's...well...you know what, no one has ever said 'no' to me in that sense before...oh wait, that's not true, he's said no to me topping plenty of times. Well I guess I'd do what you're doing and continue to press my advantage, but I'm an impatient kind of guy. I learn to accept the boundaries I guess, it's better than having nothing at all and that would be a shame...but it's a different matter for you though.

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I don't even remotely have a maybe.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

I'm an optimistic guy, but I'm a logical guy. I deal with the facts not with the possibilities, so I can only tell you what I think is true. I'd really like to say something here that would give you some hope, because I don't want to come off like a total jackass...I could do it, but logically I know that would only hurt you more and I'd still be a jerk if your feelings were hurt. It's probably a difficult concept, but if he's rejecting you physically and emotionally even if there is the remotest possibility that he feels something deep down...well, it's just hard to say it, but you might be happier looking somewhere else in the long run.



[*Feels like apping Drake now just to temper Klavier's well meaning asshattery XD*]

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

..... Well, there kind of is this other guy I like the look of but I don't think he's all that interested either.

I'm an optimistic too, usually but sometimes I just feel a little lonely, you know.

[herrglimmerous.livejournal.com]

You sure can pick 'em, huh? What kind of moves have you tried on him...the other guy?

That's natural enough, human beings are social creatures.


[It'd give me a chance to put all of those Drake icons sitting around on my computer to use. He needs more love :3]

[jjadams.livejournal.com]

Uh... None really. But he is kind of dreamy.